We all have one. You just don’t always see it.
It’s the invisible plate that everyone keeps referring to when they ask the one question no one ever likes to answer…. “how are you?”
Depending on whom is asking, the answer to “how are you?” can vary.
But, let’s be honest, we never tell the truth.
Boss: How are you? Me: Great! And, you?
Co-worker: How are you? Me: I’m ok. And, you?
Cashier at store: How are you? Me: I’m well, thank you, and you?
Anyone in your family: How are… Me: What do you want?
Best friend: How are you? Me: I’m just fine, how are you?
See? We’re all a bunch of fucking liars. But worse, we are constantly trying to assure people that we have our shit together, and then opening ourselves into a vulnerable state to absorb the problems of others by taking on more than we can swallow.
No one is great, good, ok, or even fine all of the time. In fact, for most people, these moments are few and scattered throughout a day which is compacted with stress, labor, intense thought, physical movement and fuel consumption to which falls into the hands of our highly experienced autopilots. We have become focused on extreme multitasking as a sign of success and productivity.
In other words… that invisible plate you are carrying is full, if not overloaded. It never empties, only breaks under pressure.
So, what is ‘The Invisible Plate”? I decided to start this blog in response to an epiphany I had trying to work on another project, or four, at the same time. A stranger I met at a convention asked me what I did for a living. After I took a deep breath and explained my work at home mom situation, she smiled and said, “You sure do have a lot on your plate. You will find your niche.”
Well, guess what? I sure did. And that stranger will never know how important it was that I realized my calling based on her simple, snide retort. For all of my adult life I have been carrying around an invisible plate, piling on heaping servings of drama from a huge buffet of bullshit.
I encourage you to follow my blog if you are tired of the bullshit too. It’s time people know exactly how much we carry on our invisible plates.
PS… I’m also a foodie… so expect to see recipes and related blog stuffs.